Thursday, October 7, 2010

Parents forever

How do we parent you when you are everywhere at once and nowhere to be found? We show up for you unconditionally, always putting your needs ahead of ours. We celebrate the small ways you have improved our day and reminded us about importance, patience, and resiliency. We laugh when we all feel ridiculous, we cry at the pain, and model the honor it is to be your parents. We wear it on our sleeves, we are mom and dad to Elan Vie! We fill our home with new worlds for us all to explore. We live to our vows as your parents. We hold you so tight and release you in the same breath. We brag about how good looking you are. We wake up in the middle of the night for you. We love you deeply so that you may always know how and where to find peace.


  1. Jalene, RJ and Elan-

    Reading this precious blog has been one of the most beautiful experiences of my life. Thank you, thank you for having the courage and grace to share this part of your journey with us - I am honored to be among your friends and family at this time.

    I am in absolute awe, inspired by your willingness to share this raw, vulnerable time . . . and your ability to do so with such honesty and dignity. I have learned so much. I am a changed and better woman because of you, Elan.

    We miss you, new friend. I hold you all in my heart. Every day.

    With love and reverence,
    Allison Benavides

  2. Jalene and RJ,
    I am so inspired and moved by your deep love and amazing grace- living and learning through this experience, as you have through all the rest. Please know that we hold you and Elan in our hearts... sending love and healing light your way today and always.
    Much love and respect,
    Jen and Adam Whalen